Friday, May 4, 2012
Xavier has decided the word no is a good thing to say in all occasions and to every person. I was sort of waiting for this stage to hit (please let it be a stage) because every small child seems to learn and enjoy the power of the word no, but I secretly hoped we could just skip it. Oh well! I think about how Xavier interacted with us and with other people when we brought him home almost a year ago. He would go to anyone. He showed very few preferences or dislikes. It took something major to make him cry. Now he is full of opinions and ideas. He knows exactly what he wants and he has discovered how to express it. I am so thankful he is comfortable enough in his new world that he doesn't fear rejection for disagreeing with us. Don't get me wrong. When I ask him to say "Hello" to a friend at the grocery store and he screams "No!" while turning his head and growling I don't have any warm fuzzy feelings. Or when we ask him to eat more bites at supper and he say "No!" while banging his fork on the table I don't gush with love and tenderness. I just have to remind myself in quiet moments like now that this is normal and so much better than the silent, emotionless, little boy we first met. But it is just a stage, right?